is said that children should be seen and not heard.
I agree to a certain extent. When a child has been taught
proper manners and is able to say "excuse me"
when he wishes to speak or is looking for attention,
we as their elders and parents should pay attention
to them now that they have done what is proper in order
to speak. What I most disagree with is parents who tell
their kids to "shut up. don't make so much noise".
This not only demeans the child but is totally rude
and uncalled for. This is especially so for grandparents.
The worst thing is if itis the maternal grandparents
whom you cannot tell off in front of anyone else and
is a lot worst when the mother does not even pay enough
attention to what's going on to tell off her own parents.
I can't stand people like that.
was out for dinner with Xander and the missus last night
and I observed this happening at the next table.
to know what's worst?
kid was trying hard to improve himself and was learning
to use the chopsticks. He was doing quite a good job
too but obviously was having some trouble (I know of
grown ups who still can't hold their chopsticks correctly
let alone a kid). So what does the grandparent and mother
do? They tell him - why bother? Just use the fork. "It's
a lot easier."
me - what kind of message is that sending to the child?
These parental guidance is worth totally nothing as
far as I'm concerned. You are supposed to teach and
guide your child and most importantly, teach them to
never give up. You do not simply take the easy way out
because that happens to be something that the kid already
knows. The kid is obviously trying hard and is improving
himself and what do you do? You tell him don't bother.